Till this point we have learned quite a lot of useful Acknowledgement stuff. You can actually do brilliant work using just The Basic Protocol to settle things down, and then focusing on one thing and Drilling Down To Bedrock, all the while Going Meta to keep things on track.
In this post I’ll teach you a new protocol. It’s called “Focusing Inside To The Core” (FITTC). I will elaborate in a later post, and to keep it short, you use FITTC when you hit a situation where there is strong emotion. DDBT is good for working out a recurring problem that you face, TBC is good for settling down when things inside are disorganized and flying around, GM is always relevant as it keeps things on track, and FITTC is good when there is strong emotion.
Now doing FITTC is very simple and easy. It’s much like DDTB, just the target and end point is different.
Instead of ‘Why is it like that?’, we ask ‘Why do I wish that?’. And we stop when the answer contains the word ‘want’.
You start with The Formula:
I wish he wouldn’t have left, of course I wish he wouldn’t have left, who wouldn’t?! And I acknowledge the fact that he left.
At this point you ask ‘Why’. Why do I wish that?
Why do I wish he wouldn’t have left?
Because I miss him.
Now we go back to The Formula.
I wish I wouldn’t miss him, ofc I wish I wouldn’t miss him, who wouldn’t?! And I acknowledge the fact that I miss him.
Back to ‘Why do I wish that’
Why do I wish I wouldn’t miss him?
Because it hurts so much when I miss him.
And back to The Formula.
I wish it wouldn’t hurt so much, ofc I wish it wouldn’t hurt so much, who wouldn’t?! And I acknowledge the fact that it hurts so much.
Back to ‘Why do I wish that’.
Why do I wish it wouldn’t hurt so much?
Because I don’t want it to hurt.
At this point we have hit ‘The Core’. The key word to look for is want. When you see that word, you have hit The Core.
And now you go back up.
I don’t want it to hurt, and so of course I wish it wouldn’t hurt so much, and so of course I wish I wouldn’t miss him, and so of course I wish he wouldn’t have left.
It’s that simple.
The Formula, Why do I wish that, The Formula, Why do I wish that… Until you hit the word WANT in response to the Why question.
Now of course, if you hit something you don’t wish that can also stop it… So you might get.
I wish he wouldn’t have left, of course I wish he wouldn’t have left, who wouldn’t?! And I acknowledge the fact that he left.
Why do I wish he wouldn’t have left?
Because I love him.
At this point “I wish I wouldn’t love him” might be untrue. And so we have hit the end and we go:
I love him, and so of course I wish he wouldn’t have left.
In essence, you either stop when you hit the word want or when you hit a spot where you don’t wish the next wish that comes up.
Try it, post in the comments, and ask your questions. Also tell us what it was like. I think it’s a pretty cool experience!