This past week I got myself The Trilby Connection by Headhacking.
Here are my impressions.
1. The packaging is a box that comes apart in the middle, revealing the main ‘book’ with DVD’s inside and a bonus DVD. It feels expensive and hints to the high production values of the HH crew.
2. I popped the first DVD into my PC and it ran fine. The first DVD is primarily about a woman named Sarah learning street hypnosis from Anthony Jacquin. He goes through set pieces, inductions, and routines. The most valuable bit to me is when a fresh hypnochimp is brought in a Sarah gets a chance to dive right in and try it all out. You get to see her beginner mistakes, and even more importantly you get to see how even a real beginner can get the phenomena.
3. I get bored easily. Especially with hypnosis products. Many teachers drone on and on about their pet theories and ideas and I often find myself jumping ahead to the actual demos. Not this time. The editing is very very tight. It’s demo after demo with the very bare minimum of theory mixed in.
4. On the second DVD you get to see Sarah go out into the real world and do street hypnosis. You then see Anthony Jacquin and Kev Sheldrake review it and break it all down. Once again, an extremely valuable piece. You get too see how even after world class instruction, Sarah fails. You see how and why she fails, and you then see how she succeeds. In a world of ‘buy this DVD and become an instant master hypnotist’, you get a dose of reality. Yes, the techniques are pretty blletproof, but at the same time it is inevitable that a beginner will have some missteps.
5. Also on the second DVD are routines from Anthony and a few other hypnotists. Also reviewed and broken down by Anthony and Kev. This gives you a real good sense of how smooth you can get after some good practice and a good sense of how it makes all the difference in the world. This part is invaluable for modeling and getting a felt sense of how it looks when it all comes together.
In the end, in my opinion, The Trilby Connection is a flawless piece of work. The technical aspects are perfect and the packaging is beautiful. It has a real nice feel in your hand. As well, you get to see the techniques taught in a clear and simple manner. You then get to see them tested on a subject by the student. It’s all then taken out to the real world by both a beginner and by a master. Seeing hypnotists work in the real world with unconditioned street people is quite often the missing bit for many beginners. Seeing the progression of a new student is also something that’s a rare find. The Trilby Connection has both.
Until this point I have recommended that my beginning students purchase two books. “Reality is Plastic” by Anthony Jacquin, and “Hypnotherapy” by Dave Elman.
After watching Trilby, it will now go on that short list as the third must have product for the beginning hypnotists.
It’s that good.
June 19, 2011 No Comments
So you’ve been reading and learning about hypnosis and therapy for a while but you have semiaritits. That’s when you have learned a massive amount, keep going to seminars, but you can’t seem to go out and actully start working with people.
But, you well know that the only way to really learn hypnosis and therapy is to work with live clients. Theory is nice and good, and live work is a whole different thing!
So what do you do? It’s kind of hard to start experimenting on people when you don’t have the experience… but getting experience is hard to get without working with people! So how do you learn hypnosis and therapy when you’re in this situation?
Traditional therapists have a middle road. They intern by some other experienced therapist, they get supervised, and so get the experience.
But what is a hypnotist to do?!
And so I’m excited to announce that I’ll be doing a 10 week, online, therapy/hypnosis supervision!
Approximately once a week we will have a group conference call in which someone will play client (with a real problem they have, a problem a client has, or a theoretical issue), and someone else will play therapist. As the session goes on there will be live feedback from myself and the rest of the group on what to do next and how to proceed.
You will learn my powerful “what do you want” framework.
You will learn “pancaking”.
You will learn how to use ABTC.
You will learn how to use provocation.
You will learn how to create powerful change conversationally.
You will learn to use my very powerful approach. It’s logical, rational, and airtight.
You will learn how to respond with flexibility, power, and grace without needing to plan out your sessions in advance.
You will learn how to create your very own techniques that will work best for you and your clients.
I have spent a long time studying the ingredients for long term powerful change, and the time has come to start teaching them.
“My main aim with hypnosis has always been to use it as a tool to help people get over their personal problems. When I first got in touch with Joe, I had been in the hypnosis game for no more than a few months. Up until that point I had consumed pretty much every hypnosis material I could get my hands on. However, no matter how many books I read or how many videos I watched, I felt my learning curve was rapidly approaching its peak. Already after my first talk with Joe I realized I had stumbled upon one of the most intellectual people in the hypnosis and therapy field, and that is a belief that has stayed with me ever since. Joe is incredibly gifted when it comes to finding solutions to whatever problems you present him. And not only that, he also has the essential and rare ability to teach his skills to others. Nevertheless Joe is one of the most sympathetic people I know and a great friend. Now, I don’t think I have to mention what happened to that learning curve…”
If you’re already doing hypnosis and therapy and looking for the secrets to long term change, this supervision will be very valuable. We have all had those clients who seem to be “impossible”. You sometimes feel that you’re working too hard to make them change. It’s time to learn how to get the client to do all the hard work while you sit back and watch!
The tuition will be under $1000 USD.
The supervision group will be very small and space is very limited. It’s going to be on a first come first served.
Want to know more?
Simply sign up here, and I’ll let you know more as soon as I iron out the details.
The first meeting will be Tuesday April 5th at 12PM EST. The second meeting will be April 12th at 12PM EST. After that we will schedule based on the needs of the group members.
Tuition will be $300 for the full 10 weeks. This price includes a free copy of my DVD ‘Hypnosis in therapy’.
March 22, 2011 No Comments
I had some awesome feedback on the first call about the automatic reaction model. People have been telling me how it has made learning hypnosis much clearer, and has allowed them to put everything they have learned over the years into a nice and tidy box.
And so I think it’s time to confuse ya’ll once again.
I’ll be presenting my “Reality Is A Scam” model in a free webinar March 24th at 3PM EST.
It’s the second full functional hypnosis model (the automatic reaction model being the first).
The implications of this hypnosis model are massive.
It will lift the veil and give you a simple and clear view of what you’re actually doing when you hypnotize a subject.
It will utterly change the way you work and how you learn hypnosis.
I won’t be using skype this time, and so getting on the call ought to be a pain free experience.
Get involved people!
The recording of the webinar is now live and available free!
Enjoy, Share, and Comment!
March 16, 2011 8 Comments
(You can find part I here)
Imagine a small child, around the age of 18 months or so, who is just beginning to learn about language and abstraction. Learning that there can be ‘the thing’ and ‘the thing but not the thing’. This understanding is key in learning language as words are an abstraction, an idea. They symbolize the thing but are not the thing themselves.
This is what differentiates humans from animals. This is why animals can’t learn language (outside of a few words that are pushed in via brute force Pavlovian conditioning). They can’t grasp ‘ideas’. That something can mean something but not be that thing itself. And so they are restricted to the world of concrete things and realities, they can’t go beyond that and think about pure ideas.
As this child ‘gets’ this concept and begins learning language a wonderful thing starts to happen. The child begins to engage in imaginary play.
How are those two things related?
It’s simple. Before one can distinguish between a reality and an idea, they can’t distinguish between fake and real. After all, ‘fake’ is real with the idea of fake wrapped around it. One who can’t understand abstract ideas can’t understand fake.
And so before a child knows about fake and real they can’t imagine, as if they did imagine they would be psychotic! They wouldn’t be able to realize that their imagination isn’t the reality, and they would respond to their imagined world as if it were real. That would be quite dangerous. If a child imagined that there was no fire and there was, and they didn’t realize that their imagination wasn’t the reality, they would stick their hand in that spot and get burned.
And so once we gain the ability to distinguish between real and fake, it becomes safe to imagine. Losing that ability to know whats real and whats fake would be the most dangerous thing that can happen to us.
We mentioned in Secrets of the Subconscious Part I that when we find our beliefs challenged we get very emotional. When our beliefs are challenged, we are in essence being told ‘your reality is not reality, something else is reality’. That to our subconscious, the message that you should start believing a fantasy as reality, is a very dangerous message.
This brings us to why techniques like EFT work so well. When someone does EFT, instead of fighting their emotions and reality as they usually do, instead they accept it and allow it to be. The moment you do that, your SC feels very safe and no longer needs to fight you.
The lesson is a simple one. Just like when you argue with others they get very defensive and try to defend themselves at any cost, when you argue with yourself and your own SC mind, it fights back to protect it’s reality and won’t give an inch. The secret is kindness, understanding, and diplomacy… with your own mind.
In the next segment of Secrets of the Subconscious, I will give you a super powerful tool that holds the key to controlling how you feel in any situation. This is what I teach and give to almost to all my clients right after the very first session. Using that magic technique, you can respect the message that your SC sends you and you can then persuade it to act differently. Once you do that, you become unstoppable!
November 30, 2010 No Comments
Are you in a war with yourself?
Desperate to change and getting foiled at every turn by your own mind?
Well here’s the big secret.
And that is you can’t have a war if you don’t fight.
When you find something in yourself that you don’t like, don’t fight it.
Accept it, love it, and respect it.
That doesn’t mean you give up your goals and lie down to get run over.
You can still present options, discuss, explore, wonder, and discover new things with those parts of yourself.
It’s going after your goal in a very persistent, calm, and easygoing manner.
Think about it.
If you were part of a company and you were doing something you thought was in the companies best interest even though the upper management disagreed with you. How would we best work with you?
Would it be with fighting and attacking and condemning you?
Or would it be with a full acceptance of your intent, a full acceptance of your right to help in the most powerful way possible, and the opening of a respectful dialog where you got a chance to hear and explore about new ideas?
And if you didn’t want to come to the table because of the years of abuse you got from upper management, well then we would need to give you lots of love and respect until you realized we would respect you and you decided it was safe to talk to us and work with us.
Your mind works for you. It wants to help you. If it does something, I promise that it thinks it is in your best interests.
Fighting it will make it dig its heels in for what it thinks is in your own best good.
Respect, love, and acceptance are the name of the game here. That doesn’t mean you stop trying. It means you try by respectfully exploring new options with your mind.
Go buy Dale Carnegie’s book “how to win friends and influence people”. The friend you want to win and the person you’re trying to influence here is your SC mind. Go get that book right now, and start reading, and use the principals now. They work.
Your SC is real. So treat it with respect, and not like it’s this nasty, fighting, and idiotic part.
Stop the war. If you don’t fight, you can’t be at war. It takes 2 to tango.
Whats especially sad here is that you and your SC both want the exact same thing.
Your safety, happiness and fulfillment.
If you found these ideas useful, you might be interested in joining my online supervision group.
August 12, 2010 No Comments
So you’re getting some simple trance effects like arm levitation and catalepsy. You’re even getting partial amnesia. But it seems like some suggestions just wont stick! What do you do now?
Well, it seems you’ve discovered a very very important thing. And that is that even after they are hypnotized, unless they are in somnambulism, you still have to give suggestions properly. Thats because they don’t fully understand what you want. However when they are in somnambulism they become very literal minded and so they take what you say at face value without needing to understand what you want.
Here are 3 key things you can do before they are in somnambulism so that they understand what you mean on all levels and your suggestions work even better.
1. Visualize the effect working and then describe what you see to them. This is crucial. If you want an arm stuck using glue, visualize and imagine completely that your arm is stuck with actual glue, and describe how that looks and feels to them. Describe how it feels to try to lift it. Describe it in the here and now. This is the most important thing in hypnosis.
2. Fit the suggestion into their world. If you have someone who has experienced real glue, the suggestion will work much better. If you get a stuck arm, then suggesting a stuck name will work much better. See where you can use what preexists to slot your suggestion in as a seamless extension of that. Use everything. Their past experiences in life, their experiences with what has worked. Don’t suggest new things, simply extend what already exists. Put some thought into that and how you can make that work. Leverage everything.
3. Say these magical words after you give a suggestion “if you understand that nod your head”. It really does work wonders.
Do these three simple things and you will find that your success with suggestions increases exponentially.
March 26, 2010 No Comments
Here are a few questions a fellow named Swoop posted on a a forum, and here are my responses and ideas.
1. Do you believe that expectancy is important when hypnotising?
2. If so, what active measures do you take to increase your subjects expectancy?
I tell them whats going to happen.
I tell them about the thousands I’ve tranced.
I zap someone in front of them.
I tell them that someone with their unique qualities (it’s rather easy to find out what someone thinks is special about them rather quickly, just ask “so what are you especially good at?”) is especially good for trance.
I explain trance in a way that makes sense to them and fits with their experience. I use examples from their own life (driving on the highway, daydreaming, not seeing the milk in the fridge…).
I use magnetic hands to show them that it “works”.
I tell them after they pass magnetic hands that it’s the hardest part to do and if they can do that then trance is 100 times simpler.
I believe some more.
I add on some belief on top of that.
3. Is expectancy the main determinant of the success or failure of hypnosis? Or is the subjects innate ‘hypnotizability’ level more important? Are they both important?
One of the main main things. One might say that high hypnotizables can generate high levels of expectancy very quickly. I would rather have a 20% somnambulist with medium expectancy over an analytical with high expectancy. Once you get to super high expectancy, you already have trance.
4. If you believe that expectancy is highly important, how stable do you believe expectancy is? Does it depend more on the subjects preconceived notions and experiences with hypnosis? Or does it more depend on the skill of the hypnotist in the current hypnosis session? If a subject was to fail the current suggestion, how does this affect future expectancy?
Here is a key rule. The subjects subjective experience is king. Into this category goes past experience.
If we want to create a powerful expectancy, we must create a powerful subjective experience.
How do we do that? First of all we must believe 1000%. This creates a strong experience in our subject of knowing it will work. It’s not a rational thing, its a subjective thing. Ever heard me talk about being THE HYPNOTIST?
This is also why having the subject see you trance someone is so powerful. It’s a subjective experience for the subject, having them see with their very own eyes that it works.
The third way we do this is by doing exercises with them and then framing them properly. This is why magnetic hands done right is so very powerful.
October 14, 2009 No Comments
When I first began looking into hypnosis I was very attracted to NLP and Ericksonian hypnosis.
Its all so elegant and and theoretically beautiful. NLP even says that it needs not be true because it’s useful!
When I opened my practice I was in for quite the surprise. My clients need to change on a deep powerful level, and NLP didn’t seem to do the trick. It works really well for phobias and other minor issues, but for the fellow sitting in my chair with anxiety disorder it simply didn’t do the job.
I turned to hypnoanalysis to find what I was looking for. I got Cal Banyans 5 Path DVD set and found it to be eye opening. I now use Cal’s methods in my sessions as my basic guide.
Of course my experience with NLP and Ericksonian hypnosis was useful, I still feel that you don’t need to prove something thats useful. It’s simply that hypnoanalysis works for me in my practice.
This leads me to my new method of brief therapy. It mirrors the process of age regression, yet needs no formal induction of trance and still gets the same results. I will be writing about my method extensively over the next few months.
The first step in my method is to illustrate to the client how our logic is affected by what we feel. We accomplish this by explaining to the client that many mothers see their children as very cute even though it might not be the objective truth. The mothers aren’t lying… they really truly see that their children are cuter then other kids!
This is a prime example of how our emotions color our logical thinking. The emotion that the mother feels for her child colors her thinking to the point that she actually sees her child as cuter.
Once our client understands this we are well on our way to establishing a neutral point of view for that client. This is a significant therapeutic achievement in its own right, and it helps us greatly in our work as we proceed.
July 8, 2009 1 Comment
So this girl is feeling homesick and wants some relief. How can we help her in a few short minutes?
First off let her know that your going to be asking interesting questions and that she should bear with you here.
Ask her how she knows she is homesick. Where does she feel that inside? Is it a bubbly feeling in her pinky finger? Or is it a heavy feeling in her chest? If the feeling had a color, what color would it be? How would it sound? What is the texture?
What is the opposite of homesick? If she felt that how would it feel? What physical feelings would there be to let her know that she is feeling that? If the feeling had a color, what color would it be? How would it sound? What is the texture?
After you have this, increase the homesickness by increasing all of those sensations. Use her exact words. Write them down if you must. So if she says its a sharp concentrated feeling in her shoulders and its green and it sounds high pitched, have her get it sharper and more concentrated and even greener and even higher pitched. Then decrease it. You want to play a bit here and establish control over the feeling. Make it stronger and weaker a few times.
Now play with the feeling that is the opposite of homesickness. Establish control over this one also. Make it stronger and weaker a few times.
Now clear her state and have her close her eyes for a few seconds and have the good feeling pour into her. Now have her open her eyes and the feeling stays there. Do it again. And again. With each time make it go quicker and quicker. Until the point where a blink makes her feel that feeling.
You have now anchored a blink to feeling the good feeling. I would suppose she blinks often during the day…….
Of course you can use this for other feelings also.
April 21, 2009 No Comments
One of the most important things you want to have as a hypnotist is the attitude that you are The Hypnotist. That you can hypnotize anyone anywhere at anytime. I once heard someone tell a hypnotist “I am not easy to hypnotize”. The immediate answer was a laugh and “EVERYONE is easy to hypnotize”. You have to have an attitude that you have done this a million times before, there is no question it will work, and there is no possibility of failure.
Once you are The Hypnotist everything you do is exponentially more powerful.
But hey! How are you supposed to feel like The Hypnotist if you have never hypnotized before?
The short answer is…. fake it till you make it. But that can be a bit hard when your insides feel like mushed jelly and you are scared to death.
So here is a powerful method that I used back when I was a beginner and trying to get that magical attitude.
Take a deep breath and relax, let yourself relax completely.
Then close your eyes and picture yourself doing something that you are totally confident about. I used a very simple example, that when I drive to work every day I know where my office is. If someone asked me “you sure?” I would look at him like he was crazy and go “hell yeah”.
I KNOW I will find my office. I’m 1000% certain. A visitor wouldn’t be so certain that they know where to get off the highway and will be able to turn at the right place. I do know. Clear. Sure. Certain. Confident. 1 Million Percent. Think of an example that works for you. I’m SURE you have one.
Then notice how it looks, sounds, feels, and what happens to your body when you imaging those thoughts and feelings. By me it happened to be a low steady powerful sound, a feeling of thick honey spreading in my lower chest, and a narrowing of my vision until I had the thing in sight like a laser beam. I also leaned an tiny bit forward and expelled our air through my nose. Hey, that’s how confidence feels and exists for me. Everyone has their own exact personalized version.
OK, now that you have that, squeeze your fist and see everything get cranked up a notch. So I squeezed my fist, and made the sound more powerful, deeper, felt the honey get thicker, bigger, expelled air more forcefully….. I cranked everything up. The harder I squeezed, the more I cranked it up. Harder and harder, more and more confident. Within a minute I was squeezing like hell and feeling that the most confident I’ve ever felt. Then I let go and let the confidence linger in me. I imagined that I had just filled myself up with confidence, and that even after I stopped pouring it in it was still there. And I squeezed again, and again, and again. Bam Bam BAM.
Now every time I squeeze like hell I get an absurd boost of confidence. It’s automatic.
Then I saw myself going over to do hypnosis. I felt high, flaky, and shaky. The opposite of confidence. I change the picture to look like the confident one. Low, strong, deep, honey….. and I squeezed and let the confidence grow and spread.
Rinse and repeat.
The whole thing took 10 minutes total. Yep that’s all it was. 🙂
Good luck, try it NOW, and drop us a comment when you are done to tell us how it went!
April 6, 2009 3 Comments