Posts from — August 2010
Are you in a war with yourself?
Desperate to change and getting foiled at every turn by your own mind?
Well here’s the big secret.
And that is you can’t have a war if you don’t fight.
When you find something in yourself that you don’t like, don’t fight it.
Accept it, love it, and respect it.
That doesn’t mean you give up your goals and lie down to get run over.
You can still present options, discuss, explore, wonder, and discover new things with those parts of yourself.
It’s going after your goal in a very persistent, calm, and easygoing manner.
Think about it.
If you were part of a company and you were doing something you thought was in the companies best interest even though the upper management disagreed with you. How would we best work with you?
Would it be with fighting and attacking and condemning you?
Or would it be with a full acceptance of your intent, a full acceptance of your right to help in the most powerful way possible, and the opening of a respectful dialog where you got a chance to hear and explore about new ideas?
And if you didn’t want to come to the table because of the years of abuse you got from upper management, well then we would need to give you lots of love and respect until you realized we would respect you and you decided it was safe to talk to us and work with us.
Your mind works for you. It wants to help you. If it does something, I promise that it thinks it is in your best interests.
Fighting it will make it dig its heels in for what it thinks is in your own best good.
Respect, love, and acceptance are the name of the game here. That doesn’t mean you stop trying. It means you try by respectfully exploring new options with your mind.
Go buy Dale Carnegie’s book “how to win friends and influence people”. The friend you want to win and the person you’re trying to influence here is your SC mind. Go get that book right now, and start reading, and use the principals now. They work.
Your SC is real. So treat it with respect, and not like it’s this nasty, fighting, and idiotic part.
Stop the war. If you don’t fight, you can’t be at war. It takes 2 to tango.
Whats especially sad here is that you and your SC both want the exact same thing.
Your safety, happiness and fulfillment.
If you found these ideas useful, you might be interested in joining my online supervision group.
August 12, 2010 No Comments